Christmas Makes Us Feel Anxious and How to Deal
- Where Christmas Anxiety Comes From
1.1. Historical and Cultural Strains
Christmas is old — reeeeeeealy old — and it really comes with a lot of baggage. All of us have grown up hearing stories of perfect Christmases, watching them in films, feeling as if we have to create that same magic. We’re living into this ideal that’s been growing over generations.” Is it any wonder it can be so intimidating!
As a kid, I used to see all these Christmas movies, and everything was perfect — the snow, the decorations, the family gatherings. And I’d wonder, “Is that how Christmas is meant to be?” It’s a lot to live up to!
1.2. Pressure from society and the perfectionism
And at the same time, have we ever just so felt that well, we have to have the perfect tree, the perfect gifts or the perfect family gathering? Trust me, you’re not alone. Society has put some really high expectations on what a nice Christmas is. We are so often trying to attain an impossible level of perfection that leaves us feeling inadequate and stressed.
I once spent hours in a futile attempt to replicate a magazine candy-cane Christmas tree. By the end I sat frustrated, covered in glitter, questioning why I put myself through all that stress!
1.3. Commodification and financial pressure
To put it bluntly, Christmas is big business. In one ad after another, they tell us to buy more, spend more and do more. If we’re not booking extravagantly expensive holiday experiences or pulling out all the stops on gifts or decorations, it’s easy to feel like we’re falling short. There’s a lot of pressure to spend, and it can definitely take a toll on our bank accounts and sense of calm.
And I have certainly fallen into this trap before. One year, I became so focused on buying “perfect” gifts that I went incredibly over budget and stressed about moneyContinue readingWho Can You Gift? People in your community are people to gift to. Not quite the Christmas cheer I had in mind!
- Common Causes of Stress at Christmas
2.1. Family dynamics and conflicts
Oh, family. We love our kids, but sometimes they make us a little crazy, don’t they? Christmas usually involves spending a lot of time with relatives, old tensions might resurface or new ones might develop. Could be your aunt’s prying questions about your love life or your siblings squabbling over who gets to host dinner. These family dynamics can transform what is supposed to be a happy period into a stressful one.
I have an uncle who stirs up politics at Christmas dinner. Every spring I mentally prepare for the inevitable hot debate. As if people aren’t already walking on eggshells trying to enjoy their turkey!
2.2. Overwhelming schedules and time management
Does your Christmas to-do list never get shorter year on year? With shopping, cooking, decorating and showing up for various parties, it sometimes seems like there aren’t enough hours in the day. Time, though, is so short, it can leave us feeling frazzled and incapable of reveling in the season.
I spent Christmas last year sprinting from one thing to another, hardly catching my breath. On Christmas Eve, I was so tired I could hardly open my eyes for the celebrations. Not quite the holiday season I had been envisioning!
2.3. The pressure of gift-giving and giving back
Finding the perfect gift can be a minefield. Will they like it? Is it enough? What if they give me something and I don’t have anything to give them? The weight of finding the perfect gift pitch and the fear of keeping up with the gift-giving balance can make what should be a joyous act become a source of anxiety.
I remember spending weeks worrying about what to buy for a friend, only to receive a message from them that we weren’t exchanging gifts that year. I mean, unnecessary stress, right?
- Physical and Emotional Effects of Holiday Stress
3.1. Sleep disruptions and tiredness
Between all the holiday hubbub, it’s not unusual to stay up doing late-night gift wrapping or wake up early to prep for get-togethers! This disruption to our regular sleep cycles can make us feel tired and cranky.
One Christmas Eve, I stayed up until 3 AM wrapping presents, stuffing stockings. The following morning, I was so bleary I hardly could take in the kids’ excitement. Definitely not one of my best Christmases!
3.2. Mood changes and irritability
Ever lose your temper with a family member while hanging Christmas lights? The pressures of the season can cause us to feel needier than normal. We may get be in a bad mood or feel grouchy, and that can affect our relationships and the festive spirit of the season.
“A couple of years ago, I became so stressed out with trying to make the perfect Christmas dinner that I ended up screaming at my partner over how to mash potatoes! Not my finest hour — and certainly not in the holiday spirit!
3.3. Physical symptoms and health concerns
Stress doesn’t only exist in our minds — it can have an impact on our bodies. Some get headaches, upset stomachs, even chest pain in stressful times. And with all that rich holiday food, and perhaps extra doses of alcohol, our physical health can suffer.
I’ve certainly gotten my fair share of Christmas stomachaches while bingeing on holiday goodies in an effort to deal with stress. It’s not a great combination!
- Real-life Tips to Cope with Christmas Anxiety
4.1. Realistic expectations and boundaries
One of the greatest presents we can give ourselves is the freedom to be imperfect. Try lowering your expectations for what you can do this holiday season. It’s all right to decline certain invitations or reduce some decorations. Keep in mind that a “good enough” Christmas tends to be more fun than a “perfect” one.
I have started telling myself that as long as my family is together and relatively happy, it’s a successful Christmas. I’m surprised how much that simple shift in mindset has helped me stress less!
4.2. Financial planning and budgeting
Consider creating a holiday budget to avoid financial distress. That might mean setting spending limits on gifts to family and friends, or finding low-cost or no-cost ways to celebrate. Most meaningful gifts are not necessarily the most expensive ones.
When I was younger, my family did a gift exchange instead of purchasing gifts for everyone. It not only saved us money, but also made gift-giving more enjoyable and less stressful!
4.3. Precautions and stress-reduction techniques
Make sure to take care of yourself while you are doing all this.” This might mean scheduling time for a leisurely bath, taking a stroll or meditating. Little pockets of self-care can alleviate stress levels.
I’ve gotten into the ritual of taking a quiet walk on Christmas Eve to see the neighborhood lights. It has become my favorite way to ground myself and remind myself what the season is about.
4.3. Precautions and stress-reduction techniques
Make sure to take care of yourself while you are doing all this.” This might mean scheduling time for a leisurely bath, taking a stroll or meditating. Little pockets of self-care can alleviate stress levels.
I’ve gotten into the ritual of taking a quiet walk on Christmas Eve to see the neighborhood lights. It has become my favorite way to ground myself and remind myself what the season is about.
- The Do’s and Don’ts of Creating New, Less Stressful Holiday Traditions
5.1. Celebration Simplification and Meaning Over Stuff
Instead, what if we stopped doing everything and focused on what matters most? Perhaps that looks like having a potluck so you don’t have to make the entire meal yourself, or concentrating on one or two traditions that you find particularly special rather than trying to do it all.
Instead of our typical multi-course Christmas Eve dinner last year, we ordered pizza and lounged in our pajamas while screening Christmas movies. It was so chill and fun we decided to make it a new tradition!
5.2. One way of incorporating mindfulness and gratitude practices
Spending a few minutes every day identifying things we appreciate can change our outlook. You could start a gratitude journal, for example, or share one thing you are grateful for at dinner every night.
This Christmas, I began a new tradition during dinner and asked everyone to share their favorite memory from the year that has past. It’s a beautiful way to highlight the positives and greatly feel connected to one another.”
5.3. Looking Into different ways of Celebrating
Who says Christmas has to be the same every year? Perhaps this is the year to mix it up. Whether you join a local charity, hold a movie marathon with your friends and family or go on a holiday instead of making it a traditional celebration.
One year my family broke the Christmas routine and went camping instead. It felt GOOD to be in nature without the commercialisation of the holiday. It really helped us refocus, reconnect on what matters.
- Reaching out for help and professional advice
6.1. Identifying the point at which anxiety has become too much
A little stress at the holidays is normal, but if you find that the whole season has become something you can’t enjoy or that you’re in a permanent state of overwhelmed, reaching out for help could be in order.
I remember one Christmas I simply couldn’t shake my anxiety. It was interfering with my sleep, my appetite and my relationships. That was when I decided I needed to speak to someone.
6.2. Support systems that are available
Remember, you’re not alone. Contact family or friends to talk for support. Some times discussing our concerns is enough to ease the burden.
I have a friend I go to when I need a holiday stress vent. We have a standing coffee date in early December to commiserate and brainstorm coping strategies. It’s not just a lifeline for me; it’s become a lifeline for both of us!
6.3. Professional treatment options for anxiety related to the holidays
If you find it hard to manage your anxiety, don’t hesitate to contact a mental health professional. They can offer strategies that make sense for your situation and help you approach the holiday season with more ease.
I realized, a few years ago, that I should be seeing a therapist to help me through my holiday stress. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. And she helped me learn coping strategies that I used even today.
Summary
Christmas anxiety is real, and it’s an anxiety rooted in history, society and the commercialization of the holiday. It can affect our mental and physical health, but there are ways to cope. This can be achieved through setting reasonable expectations; nourishing your mind, body and soul; developing new traditions; and asking for help when it is needed to reduce stress and balance more joy in the holiday season.
Frequently Asked Questions
Any tips for handling family disagreements over Christmas?
Try creating clear boundaries, using active listening, and focusing on what you have in common, rather than what divides you. Should tension build, take a step back or propose a group activity to change the dynamic.
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Think about homemade gifts, experiences (like a home-cooked meal or a day trip) or an agreement to exchange gifts with each other, where each person buys only one other family member a gift.
How can I balance social commitments but not get burnt out?
It’s fine to be choosy about which events you however, visit. Focus on the ones you care about the most, and don’t hesitate to politely decline the others.
Is it normal to feel depressed over the holidays?
Yes, there are a lot of people who feel sad or depressed during the holidays. If these emotions continue or disrupt your daily functioning, please contact a counselor or a mental health professional.
What can I do to support someone struggling with Christmas anxiety?
Listen without judgment, offer tangible assistance (such as chores) and nudge them to practice self-care. If their anxiety appears serious, encourage them to talk to a mental health provider.
